Taken from Carol Gilligan's "In a Different Voice":

Q: When responsibility to oneself and to others conflict, how should one choose? Why?

Jake (11 years old): You go about one fourth to the others and three-fourths to yourself.

Because the most important thing in your decision should be yourself, don't let yourself be totally guided by other people, but you have to take them into considerations. So, if what you want to do is blow yourself up with an atom bomb, you should maybe blow yourself up with a hand grenade because you are thinking about your neighbors who would die also.

It's really interesting to see the young girls nuanced answer side by side, but I thought you all might get a chuckle (or relate to) the boys response.